Depression

I went through a very serious, 4 year depression a while back. It was fucking brutal! I would not wish that on anyone. Eventually I found a good doctor who got me on some medication that worked for me. Through some research, I also got a better understanding of how my brain and thought processes work. Around this time I also started getting interested in Buddhism, meditation, and tai chi which helped change my mindset a bit so I could deal with the depression more effectively. My doctor told me early on that there are no magic pills. The medication helped me get to a place where I could start collecting tools to help me better deal with life.

I eventually got to where I would go long periods of time without feeling depressed. That doesn’t mean that I never felt sad or a down or never had bad days. For me, there is a huge difference in having a bad day and the debilitating effects of severe depression. And I noticed that I could spot the negative thoughts that would seem to invite the depression back in, a mile away. And when I do spot them, I’m like, oh hell no! I’m not going down that path, ever again! Very rarely have those old thought patterns and feelings been able to sneak up on me.

So it was kind of shocking for me to wake up today with that old black cloud hanging over me like in those dark days. It’s like I went back in time about 8 years. It seemed like a thousand pound weight was on my chest and it was everything I could do to get out of bed. The thoughts like, damn, I hate that I woke up today, were right there, like they used to be every day. Totally ambushed me. I never saw it coming.

I’m grateful for all the things I’ve learned over the last several years regarding dealing with thoughts and feelings. I used to try to fight the depression. I tried to get rid of it and make myself be happy. It never worked. In tai chi, resistance actually gives your opponent strength. Instead, yielding to overcome is the thought process. No resistance. That doesn’t mean you don’t protect yourself. Not at all. But you go with the flow of your opponent. This is very similar to how I deal with negative thoughts and emotions. I no longer try to fix myself. I notice what’s there, without judgment when possible, and then just see what comes up next. And I try to flow with that. It’s been very difficult to do this today. The feelings are almost overwhelming. So I’m just breathing, paying attention to my work, and mindfully noticing the feelings from time to time.

I’ve read this before, and thought it myself in the past a few times… but today’s ambush made me realize that I might never be fully “cured” of depression, never to think of it again. It might very well be something that pops up from time to time, for the rest of my life. That doesn’t make me sad or scared, but I think it’s good that I realize that. So when I see the thoughts coming from a mile away, or I’m ambushed by a thousand pound weight of depressed feelings, I won’t be shocked or think that there is something wrong with me. I realize today that thoughts like, “Well, fuck! I thought I was over this for good!”, only add fuel to the fire of the depressed feelings. I’m too exhausted to learn any other lessons from this today. I’m sure things will come to me over the next several days.

If you are dealing with depression, my heart goes out to you. It’s a truly terribly thing to have in your life. I won’t tell you to “hang in there” or “things will get better” or any of that other bullshit that NEVER helps. I will just say that I understand, at least to some degree, and I feel your pain. If you haven’t looked into medication, check it out.  Or get someone to help you check it out.  If you can find one that helps, it’s life changing!  If you are a friend or loved one of someone dealing with depression, be there for them. Call them. Send them flowers. Cry with them. If they will let you, give them a hug. Sometimes, ask them what you can do for them. They won’t always know what to tell you, but it means a lot.

Namaste, and peace, and all that.  🙂

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This thing we call “God”

I’ve been thinking about god, or at least the idea of god, off and on lately. Which, I really don’t do much of anymore. I thought I would share some of the things I’ve been thinking about, in case anyone is interested. But, like I said in my last post, I definitely have more questions than answers. For the sake of consistency in this post, when I use the word “god”, I’m referring to the idea of a divine intelligent being that is, or is part of, everything. And if I refer to god in the male sense, please don’t be offended. It just saves time and that’s the idea I grew up with, so it’s familiar to me. You could also say life force, or essence, or light, or whatever someone thinks god is. The dictionary defines god this way; “(in Christianity and other monotheistic religions) the creator and ruler of the universe and source of all moral authority; the supreme being.” That’s pretty much the definition that I used to agree with. There were slight variations here and there, depending on the flavor of Christianity, but that seems pretty standard across the board.

The way I see life now, I probably will never have a concrete belief in who or what I think god is. From my experience and personal opinion, I don’t think it’s possible for us to REALLY know who or what god is. I used to think it was, and that I knew him pretty well. I’ve changed a lot since then. I don’t think god is like the Christian god that I grew up believing in. I no longer believe in the traditional ideas of heaven and hell. Along the way over the last few years, I’ve heard some interesting ideas about god. There is the idea that the universe is basically a play or a drama and god is the sole actor, playing all the parts. A similar one is that he is playing hide and seek with himself and at some point, people come to the realization that they are god. In both of these, he is playing the role so well, or hiding so well, that we don’t realize that we are all god. At least not right away. I like these ideas. I also recently heard someone say that they thought everything and everyone is an expression of God. I like that idea as well.

A friend and I were talking this weekend about the idea that god is all. So there is nothing that is not god. Many religious traditions have this idea in their writings. The Christian idea I’m familiar with says that god is over all and through all and in all. Well, all pretty much includes, all. If there is nothing that is not god, then god is both (what we would perceive as) good and evil. This really fucks people up! I know it did me, at first. I still trip over it from time to time. But then we have to go back and define good and evil. Aren’t both ideas based on perspective? And, if we go with the idea that all is a drama, and god is playing all the parts, then he is playing both the victim and the perpetrator. And yes, there are always the extreme examples where we just can’t help but think that something is just flat evil and there is no way god had anything to do with it. I’m not saying that this is how it is, period. I’m just sharing thoughts and questions.

An idea tied to the god is all idea is that there is no such thing as sin. This also gets folks riled up! Especially in my area where religion is so prominent. If we are all expressions of god, characters played by god, or one with god because there is nothing that is not god, how could there be sin? How could god be mad or hurt or disappointed by something that he is doing? Now, for us to live in the organized society that we live in, we do have to have rules and laws to generally keep things the way we like them. But I’m talking about sin between man and god. And they would have to be separate to have one sin and the other label it as sin. When I’ve heard this idea presented, people generally ask, “so are you saying you are perfect?” Well, what is your definition of perfect? I would say yes. I’m exactly as I should be.

Then, of course, there is the idea that there is no god. From this perspective, there is no sin, either. There are those social norms that people expect, but sin between god and man can’t exist if there is no god. Also, if there is no god, then there probably is no devil. The traditional idea being that the devil was at one time an angel created by god. Then good and evil falls into social norms versus things that society deems to be good or bad. And when people do bad things, they are probably messed up or broken, somehow. It’s like when hurting people hurt people. Most child abusers were abused as children. And so on. One thing that gets me when I think of there being no sort of god at all is, where the hell did everything come from? Even if everything started from a super dense mass of matter, and it went, “bang!” Where did the super dense matter come from? And, where did God come from? The human mind really can’t grasp the idea that something has been around forever, with no beginning at all. But, that probably has something to do with the fact that most people see time as only linear. But that’s another topic.

And I’m sure there are many, many other perspectives and factors to all this that I haven’t thought of yet. I’m not sure that I want to know the answers to a lot of these questions? A friend recently asked, if you could know the exact time of your death, would you want to know? My initial response was yes. Then I thought about it, and at that time, decided that I would not want to know. Another friend said that he thinks it’s more fun not knowing. That way, you are free to keep imagining. Yeah. I kind of get that. Sometimes, not knowing is fun.

More questions than answers

I recently turned 50. It’s really just one of an average of 27,375 days. But in our society, it’s one of the big milestones. I’m still not sure what to do with the fact that I’m 50? I don’t really feel older, or like I thought I might feel, years ago looking ahead. When I was 20, 50 seemed pretty damn old! LOL Now, it’s just how it is. I actually feel pretty good. I do have some arthritis and some old injuries that remind me that they are still around from time to time. But I’m healthy and active and mostly sane and all that. I do see myself in the mirror from time to time and wonder, “when the hell did that happen?!?!”

I haven’t spent a lot of time being philosophical about the fact that I’m 50. But I’ve spent a little time over the last day or two thinking about some things. I realized that I still haven’t figured out what I want to be when I grow up. But I don’t really look at it that way anymore. As much as I hate the bumper sticker phrases, life really is a journey and not a destination. So what I am when I grow up can change many times. It can be hard to keep that in mind in the daily grind. As always, work has been nuts! But it still beats looking for a job, right? But I digress…

I also realize that I seem to have many more questions than answers. In fact, I’d say mostly questions. It’s not that I haven’t learned anything along the way, I definitely have. But many things I thought I knew, I realize that I really don’t. And the perspective on the things I have learned tends to shift with time and age and experience. So even what I have learned shifts a bit from time to time. If that makes sense? It’s funny to think back to my 20’s and 30’s. It’s not that I thought I had all the answers, but I thought I had most of the answers. Ha! Not in a haughty way, it’s just what I thought. Then I had kids, I went through some major life shit, and over the last few years, my beliefs in just about everything have drastically changed. Now I’m like, well, fuck. I don’t think I know much of anything. At least not much of anything, in a concrete sense. And I’m getting to be ok with that. I’m talking more about the realm of ideas and philosophies and “spiritual” shit. I’m pretty sure I know about things like gravity and taxes and not to put my hand on a hot burner. Things like that.

On a side note, I’ve been cursing more and more as I get older. Not in a vulgar, Andrew Dice Clay, kind of way. Not that there is anything wrong with that. But just using the words to express feelings. I recently had another blogger encourage me to let more of myself, where I am right now, come out in my writing. So you might see an increase in some curse words. And it’s fun! Sometimes, there are situations that just require you to say, “fuck!” Ok, I’m off track again…

A friend of mine recently invited me to a class that he was heading up at his church. His idea was to stir people to ask questions and discuss things. The main question was, “what if?” So, things like, what if there is no God? Or, what if God is not anything like I think God is? What if God loves everyone equally, no matter what? What if there is no hell? What if there is no heaven? At least, not like I think heaven is? It was very interesting and I think it was a good activity. One of my favorite questions was, what if there is no such thing as universal truth? What if truth is individualized? In my religious days, this would have blown my doors off! LOL I don’t know if I would have even stayed. But now, realizing how little I probably know about the universe, what’s out there, seen and unseen, I don’t get so freaked out by these things. And, if truth (whatever the fuck that is?) is individualized, then what one person believes and what another person believes can both be true. Even if they seem to contradict each other.

Of course you will have folks asking, “what if he thinks it’s ok to hurt someone and does it?” Yes, I get that. To have a working, relatively peaceful society, you do have to have some rules that everyone abides by. They might not agree with them, but they still abide by them. So the idea that you and I both think it’s wrong to physically assault someone, works in favor of a working, peaceful society. But, I’m really talking more about ideas and philosophies and beliefs that would more fit the label of spirituality of some kind. For example, meditation. I have meditated off and on for a while and I can say that there are some positive benefits for me when I’m consistent with my practice. Someone else may meditate for a while and not find anything beneficial. Well, neither of us is wrong. And just because my experience varies from yours, doesn’t mean that I’m right when I say meditation is good for you and you are wrong when you say it’s not. Timber Hawkeye, author of Buddhist Boot Camp, says, “If someone tells me that the sky is green I simply say “okay”. I don’t need to agree with them, and I certainly don’t need to prove them wrong or to show them “proof” that I am right… I simply go on with my life with this newfound understanding that to some people the sky looks green.”

It seems like I also heard someone say something like, just because someone says the sky is green, doesn’t make it any less blue when I look at it. I don’t know if it’s because of the competitive nature of our culture (or maybe something in human nature) that makes us feel like we have to prove we are right, and someone else is wrong? Hey look, yet another question that I don’t know that answer to, at least not at this moment. And, like I said, I’m getting more and more ok with that. I kind of think the more ok I am with not having to have an answer, the more easily some kind of answer will come to me in time. We’ll see.  🙂

Peace, y’all.

So many ideas, so little writing.

I’m sure I’ve said something like this before, but one problem with reading several books at once, is that there are often several ideas going on in my head at a time.  And I start to write about one, or maybe more than one idea that relates to another, but then kind of grind to a halt.  Could be some kind of block?  Could be that I’m not allowing my mind to be quiet on a more regular basis?  Or maybe too many differing ideas and opinions going around up there?  Whatever it is, the end result is the same.  Fewer blog posts.

So just a short one today.  I finished reading The Tao of Pooh for a second time.  Really enjoyed it this time around.  It’s interesting how you can read something at one time and be like, huh?  And then read it again later and things kind of click.  I also recently finished The Alchemist.  I know it’s considered to be good, and well respected, and has probably encouraged a lot of people.  But I’m at a place where I was like, huh?  Yeah, I just couldn’t put it all together.  I’m still reading The Wooden Bowl.  Very good.  Also Nothing To It.  Very good.  As is my habit, I also started reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.  I’m really enjoying it so far.

As far as things I’m putting to practice in my daily life, as I wrote about in my previous post, it’s still just paying attention to what’s going on now.  Sticking with basic mindfulness.  So if I get up to walk down the hall, what does it feel like when my feet hit the floor.  Or the feel of the a/c as I walk by a vent.  Etc.  I did read something about mindfulness lately that I thought was pretty funny.  The author was saying that he can be in the middle of enjoying something like a beautiful sunset.  Then he becomes aware or mindful that he is enjoying a beautiful sunset.  Now he is no longer enjoying the sunset, he is aware that he is/was enjoying the sunset.  LOL  It really can seem like a mind game!  I read something in The Wooden Bowl recently that will fit nicely here.  He was talking about basic meditation.  Sitting, counting the breaths.  In breath, out breath, one.  In breath, out breath, two.  Do this to 4.  If you make it to 4 without your focus being broken, start again at one.  If you lose count, start back at one.  He said that some people get so focused on the counting that they kind of forget about the breath.  The counting is just something to help the mind slow down so you can focus on the breath.  Eventually, you will be able to follow the breath without the counting.  I really like that.  It’s like the mindfulness practice of noticing what is going on.  In the beginning of mindfulness practice, it’s helpful to notice or be aware of what is going on in the present moment.  Eventually, you can drop the noticing of you being in the moment (like dropping the counting of the breath), and just be in the moment.  Cool.  🙂

Hopefully more soon.

Posting on my blog, I know I’m posting on my blog…

Ok, so I have about 10 blog posts that I’ve started working on, but just haven’t had the energy to finish. I’m not sure that “energy” is the right word? But I get half way through typing it out, and then I just go, bleh. Well, I guess that is right word, then. I’ve been struggling lately to have enough energy to do anything other than go to work. Work continues to be very stressful and seems to be consuming much of my life. I know lots of people in the same boat, so I know it’s not just me. I started thinking about what I’m doing, or not doing, now that may have changed in the last few months. I think I know what part of the problem is.

I wrote a post in April of last year and called it, “practice, practice, practice”. I went back and read it and realized I have not been doing this. So what has changed? Well, the first thing I thought of was my meditation practice. I used to meditate every Sunday morning with friends but the building we met in was sold. So that group kind of dissolved. So now, I rarely set aside time specific to meditation. I understand that I can have meditative moments throughout my day, but there is something about taking time out, sitting quietly, and meditating. So I’m endeavoring to do more of that.

The other practice that I realize that I have let go of is mindfulness. I’m reading Stephen Batchelor’s “Confessions of a Buddhist Atheist” (reading is another thing I want to do more of). I keep re-reading a section of his book where he talks about mindfulness. Here are some excerpts from that section that stand out to me:
“Gotama did not encourage withdrawal to a timeless, mystical now, but an unflinching encounter with the contingent world as it unravels moment to moment. To be conscious of what is happening in the present requires training in mindfulness, which Gotama described as “the one way” to achieve the kind of focused presence and responsiveness needed to function optimally on a groundless ground. Indeed, he spoke of mindfulness as being grounded in whatever occurs in one’s body, feelings, and mind as well as in the world about one. Mindfulness is to be aware of what is happening, as opposed to either letting things drift by in a semiconscious haze or being assailed by events with such intensity that one reacts before one has even had time to think.
Mindfulness focuses entirely on the specific conditions of one’s day-to-day experience. It is not concerned with anything transcendent or divine. “When a monk breathes out long,” said Gotama, “he knows: ‘I am breathing out long.’ Breathing in short, he knows: ‘I am breathing in short.’” Such a person acts in full awareness when looking ahead and looking away, when flexing and extending his limbs, when wearing his robes and carrying his bowl, when eating, drinking and tasting…”

There are lots of interesting points all through this excerpt. But the one thing that stood out to me, that I can put into practice fairly easily, is when he talked about when a monk breaths out long, he knows he’s breathing out long. So I’ve been doing that. Like right now, I’m typing, and I know I’m typing. I’ve actually said that to myself. When I get up to get a drink of water, I say to myself, I know I’m getting up to get a drink of water. It might seem a little silly at first, but try it. For me, as far as anything noticeable, it has a very calming effect. It settles my mind and emotions. I’m sure there are lots of scientific reasons for this, but I’m just glad it works. I Googled “effects of mindfulness” and there are tons of things that being more mindful does to your brain. And that, of course, effects everything else. And back to the first paragraph, I do notice that I have a little more energy. Maybe because my mind isn’t going in 50 directions? I imagine that has something to do with it.

Everyone is different, so what helps me might not be the same thing that helps you. People have different things that help them get to a good place, mentally and emotionally. Whatever that is for you, I encourage you to do more of that. But also try the mindfulness thing. Just to see if it helps. If it does, you can add that to your list of things that get you to a better place in this crazy world.   🙂

Can’t we all just get along?

I wrote a post in June of 2017 called, “why am I so angry?” I talked about how I began to notice my anger towards religion, Christianity in particular.  I imagine it’s specifically projected towards Christianity because that is my background and here in the south, I’m surrounded by it at all times.  I’ve noticed that I’m not as angry any more.  I don’t really know if that’s better or worse or maybe just doesn’t matter?  But, that seems to be the case.  I didn’t say not angry at all, just not as much.  🙂

I still look at pages on social media like God on Facebook and Jesus on the Internet and stuff like that.  Many of the posts make me laugh.  But I’m sure that part of the reason I look is because I still have issues with religion.  It might always be that way to some degree.  Just stay away from the comment sections.  Wow!  I’m not sure why so many Christians comment on these sites?  I’m not sure if they are trying to change people’s minds about God or get them “saved” or what?  But very quickly, on both sides, they turn into arguments.  And those arguments quickly get personal.  It’s like sitting in a middle school cafeteria listening to students argue.  “I don’t agree with what you said”  “Oh yeah, well, you’re a jerk!”  “Your mom’s a jerk!”  And it just goes downhill from there.  At this point, it’s obvious that no one is open to the other’s point of view.  I’m not sure if atheists go to Christian sites and try to convert them, or troll them, or not?  Probably.

For myself, I try to keep in mind something that Timber Hawkeye (author of Buddhist Boot Camp) wrote that I mentioned in the angry post:
You don’t have to agree with, only learn to peacefully live with, other people’s freedom of choice. This includes (but is not limited to) political views, religious beliefs, dietary restrictions, matters of the heart, career paths, and mental afflictions.
Our opinions and beliefs tend to change depending on time, place, and circumstance. And since we all experience life differently, there are multiple theories on what’s best, what’s moral, what’s right, and what’s wrong.
It is important to remember that other people’s perspective on reality is as valid as your own. This is why the first principle of Buddhist Boot Camp is that the opposite of what you know is also true.
No matter how certain we are of our version of the truth, we must humbly accept the possibility that someone who believes the exact opposite could also be right (according to their time, place, and circumstance). This is the key to forgiveness, patience, and understanding.

I often have to remind myself that my beliefs are not right and everyone who believes differently is wrong.  Like Timber said, time, place, and circumstance.  If I were born in Turkey instead of the US, my beliefs would probably be drastically different than they are now.  If I was born 100 years ago anywhere in the world, my beliefs would probably be drastically different than they are now.  And if I’m still alive in 30 years, my beliefs will probably be at least slightly different than they are now.  And that’s ok.  🙂

Still here

Hey all.  I just wanted to put a short post out there, letting anyone who might read my blog from time to time know that I’m still out here.

I’m working too much again.  And the work is really insane.  So any extra brain power that I might use for writing is being sucked into the abyss of US commerce.  And I am trying to find enough energy, at least a few days a week, for the exercise that I enjoy and desperately need.  Thus, no posts.

But, here are a couple of things I’ve been thinking about.

Fun.  I need to have more fun, and/or do more things that I really enjoy.  For example; I saw the Foo Fighters here in Memphis.  Wow!  It’s the second time I’ve seen them live in the last 3 years or so.  I’m not a big concert goer anymore, and not really a big Foo Fighters fan.  But damn.  They are so much fun to see live!  They just rock your face off for 3 hours or so.  I really enjoyed it.  I was pretty much laughing or smiling or both the whole time they played.  I know that life isn’t made up of hilarious fun all the time.  In fact, most of life is very mundane.  And finding enjoyment in the mundane is part of all this.  But having something like that, more than once a year, is probably a good thing.

Spiritual practice.  For me, it’s important.  Now, what do I mean by “spiritual practice”?  It could be meditating, yoga, spending time in nature, praying, going to church, going to see Foo Fighters, or any number of things.  One thing I believe right now (and this could change, thus, shifting beliefs) is something that several spiritual leaders have said in the past; you already are what you are trying to become.  I don’t think that a person’s spiritual practice makes them more spiritual.  But I do think it helps you to see that you already are spiritual.  I’ve referenced this quote before by Thich Nhat Hanh and I love reading it every time I see it:
“You are what you want to become. Why search anymore? You are a wonderful manifestation. The whole universe has come together to make your existence possible. There is nothing that is not you. The kingdom of God, the Pure Land, nirvana, happiness, and liberation are all you.”
I believe that my spiritual practice (which includes reading, meditation, mindfulness, yoga, and tai chi; which all kind of fit together) helps me to see this and hopefully live more fully in that reality.  It’s very obvious to me when I’m not practicing consistently.  The way I react/respond to the stress of everyday life is not preferable.  LOL
So, whatever it is that helps us remember that we already are what we are trying to become, maybe we can make time for more of that.  🙂

I am reading when I can.  I’m still reading Mark Nepo’s “The Exquisite Risk” and Phap Hai’s “Nothing to It”.  Also, I’ve started reading Stephen Bachelor’s “Confessions of a Buddhist Atheist”.  Very interesting so far.  No, I still can’t read just one book at a time.

I hope you all are well and hopefully I’ll have more to write about soon.

Teaching Fish to Swim

Please head over to Our Beautiful Lies to check out the latest post.  It’s so good!  Very well written and well said regarding awareness and just learning to be.

Teaching Fish to Swim

 

Perspective revisited

I’ve said this before, but it’s interesting to go back and read old posts.  I catch myself thinking, oh yeah, I remember that.  And being able to put little practices and mindsets back into my life that I let slip over the weeks and months.  I guess that’s why many folks keeps journals and diaries and such.  Hmmmm… Maybe I should keep a journal?  LOL

I had an interesting experience several days ago that I’ve been considering writing about.  Experiences are personal, and subjective, and from a point of relative truth to that person.  But they can also be helpful to others.  I went back through my posts to see if I had written anything similar and came across the one titled, Perspective.  There is a quote from Alan Watts that is referenced that fits nicely with the experience that I had.  ”Every individual is an expression of the whole realm of nature, a unique action of the total universe.”  Just sitting and pondering that for a while is pretty mind blowing.

It’s difficult to put the whole experience into words, but I’ll do my best.  I had gotten into the shower on a Monday morning a couple weeks ago.  I’m not a morning person, so I really wasn’t thinking about anything except showering.  But at some point, a thought came into my head, something like, imagine what happens when you die.  So, I did.  In my mind, it’s like I fell asleep.  It seems like I woke again pretty quickly and was aware of everything around me.  Then that awareness quickly spread, like zooming out with a camera.  I became aware of every person, blade of grass, bug, rock, even the space between all the “solid” objects.  Aware like I was those things.  Then the awareness spread quickly again to include the galaxy.  Then, what I imagine was the universe.  I was aware, and was, every star, planet, comet, being of any kind, etc.  Then the thought came to me, God is playing all the parts.  And when I say “God”, I don’t mean the image of the old guy on the throne.  I’m not sure what I mean by “God” other than a very intimate awareness of everything.  Everything seen by us, and not seen by us.  Then the thought came again, God is playing all the parts.  God is the trees and the wind; the cat and the dog; the music and the listener; the husband and the wife; the perpetrator and the victim.  Etc.  God is playing all the parts.  And he/she/it is such a good actor, even the characters believe that they are real and separate from all the other characters.  And even when the character does remember that they are just that, a character in a giant, cosmic play, the fun of being an actor is the acting!  So they go on acting out the part of their character, with a slightly different perspective than many others have.  It’s not a better or worse perspective, it’s just different.

And no, I had not done any drugs before this experience that played out in my head.  LOL

Something I’ve read and heard from many wise individuals is that experiences are just that.  An experience.  I’m not going to build a dogmatic doctrine around it.  I think experiences, whether enjoyable or not, are like puzzle pieces that we fit together throughout the course of our lives.  And hopefully, the picture will become clearer as we go along.  How do I fit an experience (even if it was just in my mind) like that into everyday life?  I’m working on that.  For now, I’ll think about it from time to time and I think it will probably works its way into my day to day living without me even noticing it.  For me, things just seem to work out that way.  I do like the way Alan Watts said it, so I’ll leave you with that quote again, with a little more of what he said preceding what I had written above.  I hope you and yours are well.

“This feeling of being lonely and very temporary visitors in the universe is in flat contradiction to everything known about man (and all other living organisms) in the sciences. We do not “come into” this world; we come out of it, as leaves from a tree. As the ocean “waves,” the universe “peoples.” Every individual is an expression of the whole realm of nature, a unique action of the total universe.”
– Alan Watts

Alan Watts, the way of waking up

I heard a little bit of a lecture or talk that Alan Watts gave and looked for a transcript of part of it.  I found it a couple of places.  The below link will take you to one of them.  Good stuff.

https://creativesystemsthinking.wordpress.com/2015/02/12/alan-watts-%E2%98%AE-the-way-of-waking-up-2/